ONE NIGHT four years ago, I inhaled and exhaled on command, like you do in yoga, as my partner inserted a vibrating butt plug into my behind. Anal play requires a lot of prep and attention; we began with fingers, used plenty of lube, and practiced relaxation techniques. When I came my face off solely from anal penetration, what happened next surprised me. I felt vulnerable. I needed some good old-fashioned cuddling to make up for the intensity of what my body had just experienced.Thankfully, my partner knew that I was having sub drop, a term for the crash that can follow the emotional high of BDSM play. They took out the plug, snuggled with me, told me how pretty I was and how much they appreciated me, and offered a snack and a few puffs of weed. After such loving attention, not only were the nervous feelings gone, but I also felt overcome with love. That was the night I first realized the importance of sexual aftercare.Sex therapists define aftercare as the practice of tending to a partner p… Click below to read the full story from Men’s Health
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